How To Use Respect To Win More Negotiations

Respect is an often overlooked intrinsic value that contributes to winning more negotiations. The following insights, per how to display respect in a negotiation will give you a few more tools to add to your negotiation repertoire. By implementing them in your negotiations, you’ll win more negotiations.

Display deference:

When possible, don’t attempt to talk over the opposing negotiator. When one person talks over the other, the person initiating the act is saying, what I have to say is more important than what you’re saying. Thus, what you’re saying is not important to me. Even if that’s not the intent of the person initiating the action, the meaning nonverbally can leave the other person feeling intuitively dismissed. In experiencing such a feeling he may become dogmatic at getting his point across, which could lead to a more contemptuous negotiation. To prevent such from occurring, you and the other negotiator can agree at the outset of the negotiation how much time each will have to make a point without being interrupted. That will set the groundwork for a more respectful exchange of information.

Be empathetic:

One of the easiest ways to influence someone is to let them know you understand their plight and that you’re empathetic to it. When people sense that you truly understand and appreciate their perspective they tend to be open to your suggestions, thoughts, and insights. Thus, when negotiating, you should always seek to display empathy (e.g. While discussing a point in which the opposing negotiator feels disrespected, you might say in a slow pace of speech, “I understand how that must have made you feel. I will be respectful of you and the offers/counteroffers you put forth. I will not take advantage of you.”) If this is done at the outset of the negotiation and you follow through with your pronouncement at every opportunity you have during the negotiation, the other negotiator will trust you, be willing to follow your lead (to a point), and feel less apprehensive about concealing herself. That should make the negotiation easier.

Display listening and understanding through your body language:

Have you ever sensed that someone halfheartedly listened to you and then it was confirmed when you posed a question that they couldn’t respond to? How did that make you feel like you were wasting your time, they didn’t respect you enough to give you their undivided attention? To give someone your undivided attention subliminally states that you think what they’re saying is important enough to warrant your attention. Thus, you send a nonverbal message that the person is important. To project such an impression during the negotiation, convey that you’re listening by nodding at the appropriate times and displaying verbal communication (i.e. yeah, aha, etc.) You can also use hand gesture (i.e. finger to temple (I’m contemplating what you’re saying)) to also signal that you’re attuned to what’s being said.

Being respectful and displaying it in a negotiation should not be an earthmoving effort. Thus, you should seek to be respectful whenever and with whomever you negotiate. To the degree the other negotiator feels you respect him, he’ll tend to display more respect for you. In so doing, both of you will display respect for each other which should transfer into a more respectful and easier negotiation… and everything will be right with the world.

Remember, you’re always negotiating!

Giving Art As a Wedding Present

Weddings are one, if not the most memorable occasion of a man’s life. The other important pivotal occasion that precedes that is one’s birth but naturally, no remembers the circumstances surrounding that day. So we are left with the most memorable immediate day and that is the day of one’s wedding.

Weddings are commemorated in virtually every part of the world and regardless of the culture one is examining, this is a time of festivity, pomp and general euphoria. Most people who get married spend more money on this one day than they will ever be spent in any other single day. This is a testimony of its importance to the couples and their family and friends. Perhaps one aspect of wedding days that makes them so memorable is the fact that presents are exchanged or rather, the wedding couple is the main recipient.

There is no limit to what the wedding couple can receive. People send kitchenware, clothes, jewelery, electronics and much more. People have even become more innovative when it comes to gift-giving. One of the most innovative and personal ways of sending special gifts has been the giving of art. Art especially as a wedding gift is gaining currency. This is because of its uniqueness and surprise element. To take it even further, we now have word art where a couple’s names can be curved into the art in artistic styles and shapes. Why would art as a wedding present be so important?

The first reason is that art is romantic. Ever since art legends like Michelangelo mystified the world with talented spirals of his brush, art has maintained a place in the world of chivalry. That is why giving of art as a wedding present is considered a very romantic gesture. Sometimes an artist may be employed weeks or months before that memorable day to sketch a mural of the couple and this is then presented to them on the wedding day. Sometimes it is not even presented and it wrapped nice so as to preserve the element of surprise when the couple later gets home and opens their presents.

Another reason why art is ideal as a wedding present is because it is durable. Its durability stems from the fact that it is framed and can be hanging on the wall. Framed photos or artwork can last a very long time. This is because it is away from the possibility of damage.

Art is also used a wedding present because it is memorable. Imagine having a name art framed pierce with both the couple’s name embroiled in the design and then this is hung conspicuously on the wall of their new home. Then visitors, family and friends can view the artwork easily and remember the memorable day of the wedding. Unlike photo albums which be safely tucked away, art as a wedding present symbolizes something much deeper in that it is clearly visible and reminds the couple of their eternal union.

The Difference Between Debt Consolidation and Debt Negotiation

Debt negotiation is a process of negotiating with your creditors to bring down your total amount of debt. A good debt negotiation company can help bring down your total debts by as much as 50 to 70 percent. A word of caution, though. Debt negotiation may sound great, but it can adversely affect your credit report.

The Pros And Cons Of Debt Negotiation

A debt negotiation company discusses your financial status with your creditors, and offers to pay off all your debts in one go. The catch is that they offer to pay, say, $4,000 cash now against the total debts of, say, $12,000. The very fact that you have appointed a debt negotiator on your behalf is a sign that you are a bad risk, and most creditors will settle for cash now, as against the balance over the next 10 years or so.

The flip side to debt negotiation is that it affects your credit rating in a negative way. The commission to your debt negotiator is usually between 14 and 25 percent of the total settlement.

What Debt Consolidation Experts Do

Debt consolidation experts negotiate on your behalf to arrange to reduce the rates of interest, and to reduce or eliminate the late fees and other charges and penalties. They help consolidate all your outstanding debts into a single debt, and arrange a monthly payment schedule consisting of reduced amount, by as much as 20 to 40 percent.

They usually charge a monthly service fee of around 10 percent, and your payments are referred to credit bureaus. They advise you to close all your credit card accounts, and may allow you to keep one active for emergency uses.

It is for you to decide which course of action you wish to take.